Letters

Thu, 03/14/2019 - 8:00pm
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“His loss is not mine alone.”

To the Editor:

So, it has been two difficult months since my loss of Donny, since our loss of Don. The night before last, I forewent my early morning walks throughout the house. I finally slept through the night. In the morning, I applied a touch of makeup and ventured into town. It is now time to publicly write this long-overdue thank you.

As I go through this my heart breaks for all of you who are missing the person you chose to go through life with. As you have said to me: "Baby steps.” We really do start a new life, one step at a time. Thank you for your empathy and sharing your wisdom, a learning none of us would have chosen.

The many cards and notes I have received are beautiful and help to warm my heart as it starts to mend.  I guess only time will tell if all the pieces find their way back.

Thank you to the folks who made sure we always had a car available to us. Thank you to those who stayed at our home to take care of things so I could be with Don and also the wonderful food you brought by. Thank you for the rides to the hospitals in Westerly, Providence, and the long treks to Boston and home. A nod to the Irish: Thank you to our own Mary and Marguerite. God bless you. Thank you for our kind and compassionate friends in all positions who work selflessly at our Medical Center. They don't just help to relieve our pain, they feel our pain. Bill and Lois for their love and generosity and to all their gentle and caring staff. They were our lifeline to the treatments Don needed to be able to stay with us a little longer. Thank you to all of our dear friends and neighbors who helped around the house when Don wasn't able to carry-on. I believe that was one of the things that bothered him most, when he was no longer able to continue to help me and take care of the home he built for us. How is it a year can feel so long and so short? Then there is our rescue squad. They are the first to see our pain and helplessness. Our dear friends so many years sharing the good times and the bad. To all of them we say thank you.

Our losses and diagnosis this year have been grieving. After all this sadness and overwhelming heartbreak we still have each other and we are this island. I use the word "our" many times here. Although my sadness may be different with Donny, you have humbled me by knowing his loss is not mine alone. Thank you to all of you for your kind words, your comforting hugs and being in both our lives. We know not our lot or where our destiny lies.

The donations made in Don's name have been numerous. A wonderful tribute to him. Thank you. I know how good it made him feel to give in the ways he could. For a year, Don defined courage and continued to give in the face of his own mortality.

I am grateful for his girls, the special men in their lives, and their loving concern. It is a hard path for them to lose a loving, caring, and devoted father.

When I am able to settle the details, I will let you know when we will have Don's Life Celebration.

Godspeed, with sincere gratitude,

Don in Heaven,

and Maggie

Beacon Hill

 

The deer saga continues unabated

To the Editor:

To add impetus to the letter from Peter Wood in the March 2 edition of The Block Island Times with regards to attending to the persistence of Lyme Disease infecting citizens and visitors to the island, an article in the March 8, 2019 issue of the Sarasota Herald Tribune puts a new slant to this insidious disease.

The Associated Press reported that: "Hall of Fame pitcher Tom Seaver has been diagnosed with dementia at age 74.”  

Seaver was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 1991, and it reoccurred in 2012 and led to Bell's Palsy and memory loss, the New York Daily News reported in 2013.Enough said!

Frederick H. Nelson

Beach Avenue

To the Editor:

Five years ago Block Islanders believed they had the deer issue by the tail. With a $150 tail bounty in place, the island hunters would soon knock down the deer population to the goal of 10 to 20 deer per square mile. Unfortunately, the results clearly show the modified conventional hunting program (i.e., tail-bounty) to be unsuccessful in reducing the deer herd to the desired population. There are way too many regulatory, land use and white-tailed deer biology-based obstacles on Block Island for such a program to succeed. To add complexity to the issue, there are many science-based differing opinions regarding the effectiveness of deer herd-reduction to reduce Lyme disease.  

I believe that the deer herd will never be reduced without a baiting and culling program in concert with the tail-bounty hunting program. It might be possible to significantly reduce the herd by culling once every three years, making adjustments as necessary to increase or reduce the frequency based on harvest and herd populations surveys.  

In the long term, it would be valuable to develop a science-based deer herd report and management plan to guide future decisions.

A negative reaction to a recommendation for yet another Block Island "plan" would be understandable, but unfortunately this problem is not going to be solved with stop-gap measures. The town could engage a university with a proposal to support a student or students pursing advanced degrees (Ph.D) in wildlife biology and epidemiology to take this on in fulfillment of their thesis. This effort would be peer-reviewed by a science committee.  

Jon Ives

Mohegan Trail and

Redmond, WA

Success!

To the Editor:

Here are the results of the recent blood drive: We received 18 units of blood, one higher than the March drive last year. Two of the donors were first-timers, always a good sign. A hearty thanks to all who gave. We look forward to our next drive that will be on Thursday, May 2.

Peter Greenman, Coordinator

Rhode Island Blood Center

 

A Steven Wright Special

To the Editor:

The March 11 issue of Time magazine named the five funniest stand-up specials in the history of television. One of the five was Block Island summer resident Steven Wright’s “A Steven Wright Special,” which aired in 1985. The review notes, “Watching his standup is like reading a book — one of the funniest books. There wasn’t the slightest inflection in his voice. There was no look on his face to indicate anything. It was purely words. That’s serious power.” 

Steven was in notable company. The other four comics honored were Richard Pryor, Steve Martin, Paula Poundstone, and Ellen Degeneres.

Congratulations to one of our own!

Malcolm Greenaway

Corn Neck Road

 

Say hello!

To the Editor:

Anyone who would like to send a card to Mason Miro while he is recovering from surgery can send their well-wishes to: Paul Mason Miro, Hasbro Children’s Hospital, 593 Eddy St., Room 427, Providence, R.I. 02903.

Thank you,

Karen Martin

West Side Road